Celebrating Father’s Day after divorce can be tricky especially if it’s the first one since the separation. For many dads, it’s an emotional day, and it may feel strange or even painful not having the kids around like before. Children might feel the same way, missing those little traditions like breakfast in bed, car washes, or dinner out as a family.
But even after a split, Father’s Day doesn’t have to be a difficult or disappointing occasion. With a bit of planning, communication, and flexibility, it is absolutely possible to create a special day that works for everyone—especially the kids.
Make Your Plans in Advance
The best way to make Father’s Day after divorce go smoothly is to plan for it ahead of time. If you have a parenting plan in place, check what it says about holidays and special occasions. A good plan can clear up confusion and lower stress for both parents and for the kids.
Some parents take turns celebrating Father’s Day each year. Others work with a 50/50 parenting plan schedule that allows the father to spend the whole weekend with the children. If your situation is different, like alternating weeks or weekends, it may still be possible to adjust things for the day. The most important thing is to talk about it early and see what is possible.
Talk to Your Ex (Even If It is Not Easy)
This part can be tough. Not every co-parenting relationship is smooth, but doing your best to talk things through calmly can make a big difference for your children. Share your ideas and be open to hearing your ex’s thoughts, too. If Father’s Day falls on a weekend when the kids are supposed to be with the other parent, maybe the other parent is willing to trade weekends or at least give a few hours on Sunday for a visit.
If celebrating on the actual day will not work, consider setting up a make-up celebration before or after. What matters most is the time and connection, not the date on the calendar.
Prepare Your Kids So They Know What to Expect
Once the plan is in place, let your kids know what is happening. This helps them feel secure and excited rather than unsure. Some fathers may need to take a more active role now that their ex is not around to guide the children through planning a card or a gift. Be clear about what you would enjoy doing together—whether it is a picnic, a trip to the movies, or just relaxing at home with a fun breakfast.
Keep the Focus on the Children
Whatever you do, try to make the day about them as much as it is about you. Keep things positive and avoid turning the day into a power struggle or competition. The more consistent and calm the day feels, the more comfortable your kids will be.
If your children want to celebrate both parents, let them. Every family is different, and your children may have their own way of expressing love and appreciation.
Start New Traditions For Father’s Day After Divorce
You may miss old Father’s Day traditions, but this can also be a chance to create new ones just for you and your children. Maybe that means heading to a baseball game, checking out a local event, or simply cooking a favourite meal together. The important thing is to find something meaningful that you will all look forward to year after year.
What To Do If Your Ex Won’t Cooperate
Unfortunately, not every situation is easy. If your ex refuses to work with you on Father’s Day plans, try to keep your focus on what is best for your children. Stay calm and keep communication short and to the point—stick to logistics like pick-up times or locations rather than getting pulled into old arguments.
If you are really struggling to agree, mediation can be a helpful way to find a middle ground without going to court. Speaking to a family lawyer can help you understand your rights and what legal options are available to you.
Remember, while Father’s Day is just one day, your relationship with your kids is built over time. Your love, consistency, and presence matter far more than a single celebration.
Lean on Support if You Need It
If this is your first Father’s Day post-divorce, you’re not alone. Other single dads have been through it and can offer advice, support, and even a sense of humour about the whole process. Look into local support groups or online communities. Whether or not you’re with your kids that day, spending time with people who understand what you are going through can make a big difference.
What About Same-Sex Couples and Post-Divorce Father’s Day?
For families with two dads, Father’s Day after a divorce can feel even more complicated. Some same-sex parents take turns celebrating Father’s Day each year. Other parents work with a 50/50 parenting schedule where the fathers spend the whole weekend with the children. Again, it all comes down to what makes the children feel supported and loved.
Don’t Forget About Grandparents
Grandparents can play a meaningful role on Father’s Day after a divorce. If your children have a close relationship with your dad, spending part of the day together can be a wonderful way to honour both generations. Taking your kids to celebrate their grandfather strengthens family bonds and helps keep important traditions alive. It can be comforting for children to be surrounded by familiar faces and routines during times of change. Whether it is a visit, a shared meal, or a simple Zoom call, including grandparents in the day can make it feel warmer and more connected for everyone involved.
Having Trouble Working Out a Post-Divorce Father’s Day Plan? Give Us A Call, We Can Guide You Through The Obstacles
Going through a separation or divorce is never easy, especially when you’re trying to co-parent and still make holidays feel special. If you’re struggling to come to an agreement about Father’s Day after divorce or need legal guidance, we’re here to help.
At Scharff Nyland Chambers LLP, we work with parents across the GTA, Simcoe, and Grey Counties to help make transitions smoother and protect what matters most—your relationship with your children. Reach out today through our website or give us a call at 1-866-721-5851 to book a consultation and speak with one of our family lawyers.
***The information provided in this blog is for general informational purposes only and should not be construed as legal advice. If you have legal questions, we strongly advise you to contact us.
